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7 entries from October 2007

Tuesday, 30 October 2007

I've been tagged

Amanda, sorry I'm late on this one!

Rules:
Once tagged, you must link to the person who tagged you. Then post the rules before your list, and list 8 random things about yourself. At the end of the post, you must tag and link to 8 other people, visit their sites, and leave a comment letting them know they've been tagged.

  1. One of my mother's nickname's for me was vaca (Spanish for cow). Her other nicknames for me were "Your Majesty" or "Queen Elizabeth".
  2. I was named Liz because of "Liz" Taylor. Maryland was originally going to be my first name.
  3. I don't know how to drive. Or ride a bike. Or swim.
  4. I hold a first degree black belt in Bujinkan Budo taijutsu.
  5. I used to have a crush on Carl Sagan as a little girl.
  6. I'm really, really afraid of bugs.
  7. I have a hard time making eye contact. Growing up I was taught that it was confrontational to make eye contact with anyone.
  8. I played a slave girl who brings King Herod women to choose his bride from in a Purim play. In the South Bronx. In a predominantly Hispanic and African-American school.

I tag Adina, Kelly, Rich, Chris, Mike, Sandy, Mark and Jen.

Your turn!

Monday, 29 October 2007

Two Years Ago

Two years ago on this day, I married my sweet darling husband.

It's hard to believe that it's only been two years. It's even harder to believe that we have not one, but TWO five month old cutie-pies to share in our love and in our world.

I look forward to growing old with Mark, to watching the kids grow up, to keep embarking on the adventure that began when I said:

In the presence of God and these our Friends, I take thee Mark to be my husband, promising with the assistance of God, and the support of our Community, to be unto thee a loving and faithful wife as long as we both shall live.

Tuesday, 23 October 2007

Five Months

Despite all the work stress, life is going.

The babies are five months old today. Kinda,

You see, with babies there is an entirely different language of time. You can count in weeks or months but the two don't always relate. And if your babies happen to be preemies, there's another way of counting thrown into the mix.

Weeks-wise my sea monkeys are 21 weeks, 6 days old since delivery. Development-wise, they're now 16 weeks, 1 day (assuming a July 2nd due date). If I go by the calendar and celebrate their months on the 23rd, they are 5 months, 0 days today. But they're technically not.

It can get confusing sometimes. Are they 5 months and a half, 5 months or just approaching 4 months?

Thankfully, we know we need to follow the developmental calendar because of their preemie status at birth. Our pediatrician told us to consider those first six weeks of their lives as time they were using to finish the development they were supposed to be doing in the womb.

So all my "This week your baby should be..." emails, which I've been using to keep me on track with them, have been set to reflect their developmental timeline of 16 weeks+. It honestly affects everything from the toys we should buy to when we can start sleep-training and putting them on schedules.

But Aden and Hunter are catching up big time. Smiles and grins and trying to stand on wobbly legs and jumping and bouncing and grabbing toys and fistfuls of hair are now filling our days. Life is glorious for short spurts of time and that is what is keeping me going now that the rest of my world is so uncertain.

Monday, 22 October 2007

Ikea, Part Deux

Last week was hard.

ELC (short for "Extremely Large Company"), Inc. laid off 13 of my co-workers and is moving another five to a different department and location — and, more importantly, removing them from our budget and headcount. Some of my close friends were amongst those that got the ax and it's been a funky feeling time. Let's just say that everyone has been looking over their shoulder while wondering "Why did they keep me?"

We've also been wondering, "When is it going to be my turn?"

I'd had a hunch that they were going to be reorganizing the way we worked as the new management would repeatedly ask, "Why do we need this position?" However I didn't guess the full extent of their reorganization plans. I thought that it was only going to be a max of three or four folks — myself being among those that would get cut. Imagine my surprise when the total topped 12 by the end of the day and I was still there.

(The 13th person was out Thursday and Friday and just got the news today.)

Folks have started calling this Phase II, as there were layoffs during the summer while I was on maternity leave. And we all feel Phase III isn't that far off.

You know that sense of security and well-being at work that's REALLY important when you have a lot to deal with personal-wise... Well, I've had close to none of that since I've returned. I've felt like I've had to re-prove myself to the new Powers that Be... Powers who don't think that I'm fabu as all they know about me is that I had the audacity to have twins while on their watch. So my nose has been extremely to the grindstone since my return to work. Hence some of the blog silence.

I've been so busy, in fact, that I've pretty much stopped posting over on the WW Boards. And that was something that I ALWAYS made time to do.

My spidey senses tingling over impending lay-offs led to Mark and I sitting on our hands as to what to do regarding our apartment situation. You see, our little apartment has gotten too cramped and uncomfortable for us. The current arrangement we have with the kids being in our room is not a model to grow on but we thought it would be a temporary arrangement until we moved to a larger apartment. Which is something that I am totally not comfortable doing right now. I know that if I got canned I could probably quickly find a job making enough to make ends meet at this place. But if we moved to a larger, pricier joint, I have my doubts about finding a job to support the nine of us — don't forget about the menagerie! This would also be the case if it were Mark returning to work. And forget about putting the twins in daycare if we both had to work... One of our salaries would pretty much go towards paying just for that, thereby negating any potential benefit.

And, truth be told, neither one of us wants to put the kids in daycare right now. Mark enjoys being a stay-at-home dad and I enjoy knowing that my babies are being cared for by their dad, someone who truly loves them.

After a few talks we ultimately decided to stay put, reorganize the apartment and stockpile money for the next few years. So Mark and I decided to turn our bedroom fully into the kids' room and to reclaim the "cat room" and turn that into our bedroom / home office.

This led to evaluating what we needed to do / get in order to make the model work.

Out goes Mark's old full-size four-poster bed and my exercise bike. In it's place will come the king-size bed and my desk, computers, files from the filing cabinets and the shredder. Conversely, the kids' room will get a new sofa bed, another crib, drapes to shut out the light and a new play rug. Out goes Mark's old dresser since half of the drawers are busted and out go my clothes from my closet as the twins don't have a closet of their own. In come two new wardrobes — one for each of us — to take up residence in the hallway.  And so on.

We knew that a second trip to Ikea was in order — the first having taken place when I was pregnant. We finally went this past Sunday but prior to our going I scrutinized their catalog, picking the cheapest items to tide us over. However, when we went, we were pretty practical. We opted for comfort over price, while still managing to keep the cost low. Our initial sofa-bed choice wound up being upgraded for one that felt better when you actually sat on it but our plans for custom-designed wardrobes were downgraded as we spotted something sturdy, heavy-duty and pre-designed that was affordable to boot. So we're $1800 poorer — we spent $100 on home delivery to get some of the really large items home — and in about a week we'll have reconfigured our lives for the long haul.

And then the kids will have their own room, we'll be bunking with the cats and all new routines will need to be learned...

Wish us luck!

P.S. Both Aden's and Hunter's 365 galleries are now up to date. Go check 'em out!

P.P.S. I have been ferociously working on this. Pictures and updates on that soon.

Sunday, 14 October 2007

What are the odds?

Both babies started teething. At four months. On the same exact day -- last Wednesday to be exact. Can someone explain HOW ON EARTH or in heaven this could happen with fraternal twins?

Just when I thought I'd gotten all the schedule stuff worked out, nature has decided to show me exactly what she thinks of my schedules and plans. Sleep schedules are off again. Feeding times, ditto. Life is turmoil and baby tylenol and teething rings.

UGH!

But the biggest UGH comes from knowing that my babies are both growing up and quickly. I was amazed this weekend when we put Aden into a Bumbo. He sat in it amazingly well -- I thought he was still too young for one -- and he was extremely overjoyed to not be looking at the ceiling anymore. I could see him learning from the new experience which in and of itself was a great feeling.

Remember those newborn - 3month sweaters that I knit when I was pregnant... well they are a minute away from growing out of them.

Everybody warns us about how quickly it goes.

But, it's hard to see it when you're in it. They're sleeping in a boppy one minute. Wearing a mortarboard at college graduation the next.

Today was extremely frustrating and rough for me. And you know what? I'm glad. I'm glad that I got my wish. I'm glad that I'm part of this adventure. My sea monkeys are now land monkeys and I couldn't be more fucking pleased about it.

Thursday, 11 October 2007

Of Fuss and Men

As you can glean from the title, Aden's been fussy as of late.

Wait, I need to back this truck up.

Aden has been insane as of late. Yesterday, he and Hunter engaged in a fuss-fest that turned into a scream - our - little - red - faces - off fest. They screamed so loudly -- I was trying to strap them both into the double stroller to wheel them around the house because they just WOULD NOT STOP shrieking -- that Mark woke up and came to my rescue.

I've barely recovered.

This is an entirely new development for me. I've gotten used to them being happy and mellow. To their fussing but not fighting prior to be put to bed. At most I've had to work an hour to get them to sleep.

Last night, Mark spelled me at 11:30 and they were just starting to fall asleep then.

Oy.

I was fearing that tonight would be more of the same, and it was. On Aden's part.

But he is finally settled and I can finally take off the Mommy hat, slip out of my Working Mom corporate shoes, take off the domestic diva / wife apron and settle into the "Liz's downtime" robe.

All the while I'm missing moments like this:

And I wonder if I made the right choice in going back to work.

But, nights like tonight and last night kinda tell that I'm right where I need to be.

Mark must be a saint.

Tuesday, 09 October 2007

Up For Air

Hello, hello? Is this thing on?

It's been a crazy few weeks for me workwise hence my complete and utter disappearance from blogging. I'm hoping to get back to it a little more steadily -- at the very least once a week -- as I miss this outlet. Still, I am currently the lead on one of the most important software development projects for my department and I haven't been able to do much other than work, eat, work, sleep, work, take care of the babies and work.

I do admit that as much as I've worked there has been other stuff done... Knitting that has gotten finished during my subway commute (pictures will be posted later; in the meantime you can take a peek at my projects on Ravelry)... Plans to completely rearrange our apartment which includes a future trip to Ikea... A weekend of monitoring the babies' fevers that they got as a result of their 4-month vaccines.

And tummy time.

So everything is quasi-OK in chez House Arrest, mainly because we've been making a bunch of adjustments with how we live.

You see, Mark and I have been finding ourselves at each other's throats more often than not. Part of it stems from the fact that we're both super-tired and cranky. It also doesn't help that we tend to have differing expectations of what the other is "supposed" to be doing. And our perceptions on what the other actually does have been accordingly skewed.

Fortunately, we are dedicated to making things work between us. Still, I will admit that it has not at all been smooth sailing. I found myself pulling away from Mark, from everybody, truth be told. This has also led to some of the strain between us as we weren't connecting -- partly due to our schedules caring for the babies, partly due to my withdrawal. And because we couldn't connect and talk about the things that were bothering us, resentment towards Mark had been building up in me until I hit my breaking point. There was crying and screaming and harsh words but I think we've gotten past the heat of our rages. We've apologized for the angry and the hurtful and are going forward, slowly, step by step, trying to work it out.

I do admit to feeling as if I were falling into a mild depression, but fortunately I recognize those signs in myself and pulled myself out. It was a difficult pregnancy for me in some respects and I'm only now feeling a bit healed. In the meantime I had shut myself down to being hurt mainly because I needed to function for my family. As the sole breadwinner there is a LOT of weight on my shoulders and I was feeling pressured with every step, every day. I'm finally feeling a little more confident, more ready to open myself up again.

After all, it's hard to stay withdrawn when you have these two angels to care for:

P.S. The babies were conceived one year ago today.

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